'He is avoiding me'

'She is annoying'

'She didn’t invite me for dinner’

These are sentences that people are complaining to me, not about individuals, but as a party.  Listening to grievance, I gradually try to explore a deeper understanding of what and why. The answer I have been given are; first, they’re different types of people who share no common interest and therefore never match; second, because of rumour,  third, simply you’re hateful and fourth, due to cunning thought. It’s not a sin if your situation is number three. But however, reasons due to one or two and lead to some people can’t be good friends, and then is considered as a disgrace. I can say, if you two don’t play together because non of you-guys interest are the same, it is reasonable. I’m neither pointing out that 1% similarity could cause you guys to play together nor 80% similarity must be good friends, but look at people around you and think at the very beginning how you meet them. How many people would say you guys are over 70% similar? Not more than 30% of my good friends are very similar to me. Then how can you define whether a party is suitable for another party? I think just listing that party A likes to play football and party B likes to play basketball cannot draw to conclusion that they are enemies. Just like will you see people studying law will never be friends with people studying business? Have you ever heard of people saying, ‘ah.. they go clubbing and I don’t.. so we are not friends’? It’s not a situation to find girlfriend or boyfriend. Therefore, I think, point one is just an improved, designed excuse to cover some truth that you don’t want to play with him/her. Second reason is just ridiculous, but deadly truthful fact that most people might involve. If A doesn’t want B to play with C, A will make up some rumour and tell B. First don’t talk about ethical issue on A but understanding of B. If A and B are close friends and of course, B will believe it. If you are in B’s situation, how many of you will actually think deeper whether A is telling the truth or not?

A: ‘C is a party boy (for 5 years) and always court girls.’
~~another day~~
A: ‘C ask me that what setting is good for candle light romance’

Assume the setting that A tries to describe C as a party monster and always flirt. If you are B, will you think that party boy with romance? An experienced party boy asks YOU about romance? Is there contradictions between A’s sentences? Then after you know that A is lying, will you think whether A lies for your own good or due to his / her jealous? To be ugly enough, most lies are due to jealous. As a boy, I had 4 main groups of gang. Every week, I need to participate at least one gathering, which cost me around 5 or 6 times every week, if lucky enough, four each week. I once tried to merge these 4 groups together, which is a stupid thought, and it will never work. However I found out that if one or two person-only group is then therefore being feasible. Even you’re lucky enough to do that, you’ll definitely regret it. What a person need is 1. private area, 2.Extendable imaginary thought, 3. gossip and 4. direct relation.

1. For example of myself as a boy having 4 main groups of people. Each group will know some of you. Group A might think you’re stupid, Group B might think you’re genious, Group C might think you’re talented, group D might think you’re just a normal person. You will experience different happiness or emotion with these 4 groups. If you linked them together, you might be just an overall mundane boy which you cannot enjoy the privilege of being extolled or praised. Therefore, you need private area from each group and maintain that privateness in yourself.

2. Extendable imaginary thought. If you link 4 groups together, you can no longer tell R that how T likes you or how T treats you as we know 70% are true but you’ll always miss those ‘important’ points that are key-action. Key-action that everyone will do to each other normally.
For example: A drink a can of coke and S lick that can
Your interpretation: S lick my saliva.
You can see how misleading the sentence could be if you miss those ‘important’ points. A person will always like private loveness, A person always like people to misunderstand, especially in love’s aspect.

3.Gossip is a thing that everyone will do, just depend on the ‘serveity’. You cannot talk about the same group gossip unless you decide to leave the group. Just like you won’t poke yourself with a needle by using your hand.

4.direct relationship is a bit hard to describe. One example is that you’re worthwhile in each four group. But once you merge the 4 groups, you’ll be worthless. If you’re people who like to think about PR, then you might understand why people want to contact a person himself rather than requesting others to contact.

The fourth point of the main topic is about cunning thought. Some people don’t like the word hypocrites, so I use the word cunning. It’s a topic that is really evil which I don’t want to spread this evilness. However, in my life I only witness 3 hypocrites cases. Although one of them is quite uncertain, the point of delusion is quite malevolent and immoral. Basically it’s just the twist of mind on easy going people and generous people. They manipulate his/her thoughts and made him sounds superior abit with a bit of joke. However, can keep that person to be as a friend in his/her mind to show off, insult, and declare or any personal benefit behaviour.

It’s just a simple expression inspired by a friend’s complaint. I’ve actually notice this case long time ago but don’t want to be involved. Friendship is not something that’s easy to understand, reject, or accept. I see her being used or manipulated for others beneficial. Those people are good enough to slick through her mind but not mine. If she don’t ask for help, I won’t try to help or give opinion. It’s a dreadful hypocrites action. I’m not being selfish and not help her even I know they’re bad. How if she doesn’t understand me and accuse me of accusing others? I’m in deep trouble am I? Easiest way to cause a dreadful hypocrites action are usually opposite gender involvement. If victim is a girl, then that hypocrite is usually a guy, vice versa. It’s hard to give up a friendship isn’t it? But I definitely hate those people who treat friendship as a side-effect of their success.